Disclaimer: none of this is new. I'm not trying to reinvent the fire, either. This is mostly trying to put the concepts by which I live my life in written form, concisely and precisely.
This is how I see what a 'real man' is.
One of the best examples of a true alpha male in modern cinema is Aragorn from "Lord Of the Rings". Calm and composed, dangerous but not aggressive, confident but with the competence and skill to back it up, intelligent, cultured, protective but not obsessive, jealous, or intrusive, tactful and respectful... The list of traits goes on.
* Constantly better myself. Learn new things, improve my skills. Be informed on a variety of topics, and never let myself be completely useless in a conversation or in a situation.
* Never shy away from responsibility. Hesitating what to pick, letting someone else deal with it, saying "I can't do it" are toxic to alpha masculinity.
* Never look for excuses or for someone else to blame. "It wasn't my fault" is the behavior of a follower, not of a leader.
* Be the best lover I can be.
* Don't bully or look for fights. In a pack of wolves, the alpha male sits around chilling, and the challengers approach him and try to start a fight. If I'm aggressive, looking for fights, bullying people, bragging about myself, I'm not giving off the alpha male vibe. I'm giving off the vibe of the beta challenger overcompensating or trying to prove himself.
* Confidence should come from a place of skill and competence. Being overly confident without having the knowledge or skill to back it up is a trait from the previous point: an overcompensating beta male.
* Behaviors that destroy my image as an alpha male:
- jealous
- angry
- insecure
- possessive
- selfish
- whiny
- greedy
- envious
- lazy
- incompetent
* Dress for function, not for show. Vanity, even when it results in bodybuilding or scary tattoos, is psychologically a feminine trait. Outside of home, I strive to wear a uniform. (e.g. the suit, or at the very least pants, shoes, and a button shirt is the universal uniform for most workplaces that don't have their own dedicated uniforms). I leave the saggy pants, excessive accessorising, pumping biceps in front of a mirror, and fashionable hair styles to the street thugs, the overpaid actors, and the overcompensating douchebags.
* And lastly, keep myself in a good shape. There is a difference between good looks and functional athleticism. Don't pump muscles for a beach body; rather, exercise and train for combat and survival. In the modern world, it might never be necessary... but just in case it is, I should be ready.
Tuesday, 27 February 2018
Monday, 26 February 2018
The Millenial Fallacon
"But why do I have to study these useless things in school? I don't know how to vote and do my taxes but I know that mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell. How does that help me function as an adult? I will never use or need to know, like, 90% of all the bullshit they teach me in school."
Because learning so much about so many subjects in school builds your foundation. You learn the basics of all things that govern your life. This turns your brain into a powerful and efficient information processing machine with a large database and a complex frame of reference. Then you won't need anyone to show you how to do your taxes because you'll be able to figure it out quickly and effortlessly yourself, as you will most other things that you need in life.
The reason why school sucks for you is not because it's teaching you useless things; it's because you find no joy in becoming an intelligent and informed badass, but you instead expect other people to do the thinking for you and show you how it's done so you can function on autopilot.
Truth is, you will use every single thing you learn in school because the more you know, the better your problem solving skills, your logical thinking, your lateral thinking, your comparison database, your ability to read between the lines, your clarity of expression, your ability to build on established foundations, and so on, and so on.
Dear Millenials,
your generation has unprecedented access to information and useful tools that will allow you to grow into the most independent and self-sufficient, hard working, resilient, connected, healthy, critical, and advanced generation to date.
Please use it.
Sincerely yours,
SG
Because learning so much about so many subjects in school builds your foundation. You learn the basics of all things that govern your life. This turns your brain into a powerful and efficient information processing machine with a large database and a complex frame of reference. Then you won't need anyone to show you how to do your taxes because you'll be able to figure it out quickly and effortlessly yourself, as you will most other things that you need in life.
The reason why school sucks for you is not because it's teaching you useless things; it's because you find no joy in becoming an intelligent and informed badass, but you instead expect other people to do the thinking for you and show you how it's done so you can function on autopilot.
Truth is, you will use every single thing you learn in school because the more you know, the better your problem solving skills, your logical thinking, your lateral thinking, your comparison database, your ability to read between the lines, your clarity of expression, your ability to build on established foundations, and so on, and so on.
Dear Millenials,
your generation has unprecedented access to information and useful tools that will allow you to grow into the most independent and self-sufficient, hard working, resilient, connected, healthy, critical, and advanced generation to date.
Please use it.
Sincerely yours,
SG
Tuesday, 20 February 2018
Parasite City
Caleb Drago is a former commander of a Special Forces unit, now retired. When he's called to assist with the apprehension of a notorious criminal, he questions the motives of the people behind the operation. He may or may not be right... it's up to you to find out.
My first novel Parasite City -- a sci-fi/horror noir featuring some sex, some very rude language, and a horde of zombies, can be found at Smashwords.com and at all retailers that Smashwords distributes to, including Apple iBooks, Kobo, Inktera, Barnes & Noble and many more.
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/717196
To any of my readers: any and all reviews are appreciated. Honesty is a bonus.